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Dr. Mary McVicar posted a condolence
Saturday, February 18, 2017
Remember well the times Carol and I would share tea as neighbors before we moved to Phoenix. Carol would laugh at the smallest of situations such a fantastic neighbor. My heart is saddened for the families loss, but know Carol is continuing her journey after a fabulous splash of colour here on earth as she touched my life and especially my kiddos Holly and Robbi Brown who were riding the same schoolbus with the Marino boys. My prayers are with Joe for a well lived and expressed life mate.
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Bill, Katy, Matthew and Christopher Gainer lit a candle
Saturday, February 18, 2017
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To keep her bright smile with us forever..
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Bill, Katy, Matthew and Christopher Gainer posted a condolence
Saturday, February 18, 2017
Our family sends our love and will remember Carol always.
our deepest condolences and prayers are with you.
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LoMonte Family posted a condolence
Thursday, February 16, 2017
We express our deepest condolences to Joe, Jason, Brian, and the Marino family, our thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Joseph Marino posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 15, 2017
Eulogy For My Wife
Carol Ann Kish Marino
Feb 4, 1943-Feb 4, 2017
Today I want to talk about the love of my life and best friend Carol Ann Kish. She loved life, cared deeply for all, and endured great heart ache throughout her life with grace, grit, dignity and hope. She was always patient and kind and thoughtful of others. She offered comfort when there was pain. She was a great loving and supporting wife, mother, grandmother, and friend. Carol was also an exceptional teacher. She saw the good and potential in every child. She encouraged children to believe in themselves. Carol was a fighter who never gave up on anyone.
For our 40th anniversary Carol's mother wrote about us which I want to share with you.
Our memories of Carol and Joe are endless. The first time was at their wedding.
Joe and I were doing the mother of the bride and groom dance and he said that
this is the happiest day of my life. Their marriage is so caring and loving.
They had a lot of health problems with their sons but always stayed strong for each other.
They were always there for each other and their sons. Carol and Joe have always been
a loving daughter and son-in-law. The family was always a very important part of their
lives. They always made time for us. We had wonderful trips and vacations. I could go
on and on but I am so proud they are part of our family.
Let me share Carol's life with you. Carol was born on February 4, 1943 in Milford, Connecticut. She was three months premature. It was a miracle that she survived. Carol's father was in the U.S. Navy from 1937-1957. Carol grew up going back and forth to Connecticut and California. She went to 13 different elementary schools and two high schools. Hefather bought a farm in Sherburn, New York a year before he retired from the Navy. They lived there for three years. Carol fed a lot of chickens, turkeys, and cows. She also picked a lot of beans. She was very popular in high school. One time she had two boyfriends at the same time who met her at a high school dance. Each thinking Carol was their date. You can imagine how that ended.
She moved to Milford, Connecticut in 1959 which was her senior year. She was not very happy about it. The next year she went to Central Connecticut State University in September 1960. She lived off campus her freshmen year. In her Sophmore year she moved on to campus . She had three roommates – Elsa, Pokie, and Barbara. In the fall of 1961 I started college at Central Connecticut State University. The college held many Freshmen mixers so that you got to know people. I met Pokie and Elsa. In early October 1961 there was the Home Coming Dance. I wanted to go but didn't know of any available girls. Pokie and Elsa said they had a roommate that was planning to go but her out of state date could not make it. So they introduced me to Carol.
So the stories of our lives merged.
We had a good time and I asked if she would go out with me again. She said yes. We started dating but not exclusively. However we did not know much about each other. She thought I was Catholic because my last name was Marino. I though she was Jewish because her last name was Kish. We were surprised to find out that we were both Protestant. So we started going to church together. In the summer of 1962 I worked in a drugstore. Carol worked as a maid in the Milford hotel. We dated but also dated other people. I dated Charlotte and Carol dated Ed. It worked out ok until Charlotte and Ed decided to go Central Connecticut in the fall of 1962.
In the fall of 1962 I started working 40 hours a week in the cafeteria and Carol worked 20 hours a week. It did not leave much time for dating. But after some awarkiness we dated off and on throughout the college semester. I was Carol's date for her sister Gerri's wedding. In the early part of 1963 I decided to get more serious with Carol. I asked her to go steady with me and gave her my high school ring.
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On my 19th birthday I asked my mother how do you know if you are truly in love with someone. My mother said off handily you just knew. So with that answer I went to the jewelery store and bought an engagement ring. On April 11, 1963 I asked Carol to go to my Grandmother who lived in Hyde Park, NY. I said we would take a scenic route. I asked Carol to marry me while standing on a cliff overlooking the Bear Mountain bridge. Thank God she said yes.
Carol graduated a year before I did. She taught school at Devon Elementary School. She really liked teaching. She was happily engaged to person who was not in the service because she would never marry a serviceman and live that life again. We got married three weeks after I graduated from college at Mary Taylor Methodist Church in Milford, Connecticut on June 26, 1965. We moved into our first apartment in West Haven, Connecticut. Seven months later I was enlisted in the United States Air Force. I went to San Antonio, Texas. Carol stayed in Connecticut to finish out the school year. I was accepted into Officers Training School and Carol came to live with me. I saw her once a week for 24 hours and then it was back to OTS.
From Texas we went to Denver, Colorado. I went to Intelligence School and Carol taught in Auroa public school system. From Denver we moved to Shreveport, Louisiana. I became a map maker and Carol started the first public school Kindergarten program in Louisiana. It was the first year of school integration. They set her school on fire when she and her students were there. From Louisiana I went to Vietnam and Carol went to Connecticut. She taught in Clinton Connecticut. In between Vietnam tours I was home for two months. Carol became. pregnant with Todd. I arrived back to the States 7 days before he was born on June 17, 1969 at Yale hospital. We were over joyus being back together again and having our first child.
We moved to Dayton, Ohio when Todd was four weeks old. We though everything was great. We moved into base housing and I was promoted to Captain. Alas it was not to be. On the way to the commissary , we stopped off at the hospital for a baby wellness check. After and examination we were told that our son had brain cancer. It was devastating and so unexpected. Todd died on August 29, 1969. We were completely drained and never wanted to have a child again.
With the help of Air Force friends things started to get better. Carol went back to teaching at Kettering Ohio. I was involved with Scientific and Technical Intelligence. We traveled to Florida and started tent camping. We went to and hosted parties. Went to the Ohio State Fair. Went to Chicago and Detroit. Carol was active in the Officer Wives Club. I ran the length of the runway and played racquet ball. We kept very busy. No time for bad memories. Carol got pregnant again this time with Brian. We were happy but very apprehensive. It turned into a very difficult pregnancy. Carol had to quit teaching in late January 1971. By February she was in the hospital dying but forunately the doctors radical treatment save Carol and the fetus. She was in the hospital till June 6, 1971. Brian was born on June 27, 1971 one day after our sixth anniversary. Brian was going to be our only child.
We moved to Rome New York. Lived on base for a year. We had our first home built. We moved in during a snow storm. My duty required extensive travel but I was home every week-end. We were close enough to visit our families for the week-end. In 1973 Carol was pregnant again. I remember asking the doctor how that was possible. We had extensive prenatal tests because of our past medical history. The tests strongly indicated that there were serious problems with the fetus. The doctors recommended terminating the fetus. Despite all our past problems and desire to have no more children, we could not do it. Besides this pregnancy was not bad at all. So we had Jason on March 8, 1974. He was eight pounds and 22 inches long.
Jason started exhibiting problems at four weeks old. However Carol and I were pyschologically prepared for this eventuality. For the next two and half years we did not know if Jason would live or die. When he was 18 months we got transferred to Germany. Jason got progressively worst. However we did not let this situation get us down.
We still traveled around Europe with the children. Carol and I went to Paris for four days. Carol went to Berlin and I went to London. I sent Carol and the boys home for a month. Carol was able to get Jason into Yale Hospital to a specialist. They finally diagnosed what was wrong with Jason. The treatment required us to go back to the States and get out of the Air Force. So that's what we did.
I went to work for United Technologies Norden Systems in Norwalk, Connecticut in May 1977. We moved into our current home on July 1, 1977. Jason went to Yale Hospital often. He would still get suddenly very sick. However each year he got better than the last. We did Indian Guides, Cub Scouts, and Soccer. We went on vacations . Usually it was in a tent at a KOA campground.
However all that past tribulation took a toll on Carol and me. In 1979 Carol was in the hospital for three weeks because of back problems. Carol got back home and recovered. I was working 60-70 hours per week. Then I came down with Legionaire Disease with the complication of pericarditis. I was in the hospital for three week and out on disability for eight months. We asked when will our lives stop being a soap opera.
We recovered and thought perhaps Carol should go back to teaching. She started subbing in Shelton. However we were hit with another unxpected medical problem. This time it was Brian. It meant a difficult two years. We reacted poorly. Brian was on miracle son. We eventually regained our footing. Carol accepted a full time teaching position at Shelton Intermediate School as a 7th grade science teacher in 1984. She did that for a few years then transferred to Mohegan School.
Carol loved teaching. She loved the children. She always strived to have them succeed. She had many good ideas ranging from studying circuits, recycling, and egg drops off the school roof. She won several science grants. She loved the faculty and principals at Mohegan School. Through her I met many wonderful people who have been so supportive. Carol was a good motivator. Always looked for the best in people. Always chose the optimistic view point. One year she got 15 students out of folders. It was an all time record. Carol also got her Masters and Sixth Year Degrees.
Once Carol started teaching again our lives got better. It meant no more tents and campgrounds. Carol was much happier. We could travel to Mexico and the Caribbean. We could go skiing. We could go on cruises. We could stay in timeshares and hotels. We were able to get Jason into the growth hormone program. He grew from 4feet six inches to five feet 10 and half inches in three years. We could afford to send Jason to St Joseph High School and Brian to George Washington University. Jason could go to James Madison University. They both did extremely well in college.
Carol and I would do anything for our sons. Carol never gave up hope. Always persisted. Always knew that eventually we find the right doctors for our sons. We operated on the philosophy that we may have sick childrenbut we are not going to have sick children and brats too. We put them to work. They had to be responsible for their medicals issues. They had to have self discipline. We were not helicopter parents. We taught them that it is the quality of life not the quantity of life that counts. You do things for a person while they are alive. Carol believed in doing things while you can. I know Carol and I carried that to extremes as some of you know how sick we were and still traveled. We believed you need to make good memories no matter how bad life treats you. Do things earlier rather than later. Learn from your mistakes don't dwell on them. Have empathy, listen, be kind to people. Family is important. Carol gave our sons every opportunity to be successful and independent. Carol believes she made our sons to independent because they live in Virginia and Florida. We made some financial sacrifices willingly for our sons.
With our sons well on their own, we concentrated on being a couple again. We bought our first timeshares with the Hilton Grand Vacation Club . We were also Hilton Honors members. Carol loved the high end facilities. She said she felt like a queen. Carol love going to the casinos. It was one of her favorite pastimes. She occasionally won enough to buy dishwashers, ranges, and Iphones. We traveled where ever their were casinos. That meant a lot of trips to Las Vegas and Aruba. Carol loved cruises. We went on one every February vacation with our cruise group. All were and are great people who Carol enjoyed being with and brought her much happiness.
When we were not cruising we traveled with Juan and Magaly often at a drop of hat. Sometimes we included the children. Carol and Juan always voted for that. The remaining pair had other ideas about that. We got along so well as a couple and as individuals. A big bonus was our children got along well too. We agreed on so much. They gave Carol such joy.
Carol loved having people over to our house. We invite people often. Carol loved games, and cards. She loved the peoples company. Carol would usually let me do the cooking so could spend more time with her friends.
We would host or go to family events.
Ours sons weddings in Hawaii and Miami were the biggest high lights for Carol. She beamed with pride and joy at each wedding. She was never happier. Our granddaughters Kate and Claire were the joy of her life. She enjoyed being with them from the time they were born to her very end. She was thrilled to be able to have them for an entire month this past summer. It was a very special gift that Jason and Chin Hee gave her that meant the world to her. She loved traveling with Brian, and with Brian and Vladimir on the Alaskan Cruise for our 50th anniversary. She felt fullfilled.
When we found out the terrible news about the bladder cancer we had the same reaction. This was just like Todd except it was Carol. It felt surreal. There were no symptons until a month or so before. The very next thing we did was go to a casino for the rest of the day. We waited till after the granddaughter were back in school to tell our children. We did not want to ruin their holiday and back to school time. When not going to doctors or hospital we went to Hyde Park and Rhinebeck with Brian and Vladimir.
Carol knew how bad and very grim the outlook was. However she still opted for the most advance and aggressive treatment there was. Unfortunately it did not work and she got all the bad side effects. She fought very hard to be as active and animated as she could be for Thanksgiving and Christmas. She did not want to ruin the holidays for anyone including herself. She was pretty succesful considering the circumstances.
After everyone left her body gave out. She was in the hospital for 18 days, home for 8 days where she saw the grandchildren again. Her sister Gerri and brother-in-law Tommy stayed with us for the month of January. It was a comforting gift and greatly appreciated. She went back to the hospital never to come home again. Carol said she knew she was dying and that she was in so much pain. She could not do it even for the grandchildren. I promised her I would be strong and have the doctors stop the pain no matter what. She said her only regret is that she would not see her grandchildren grow up.
My sons and I got to say our last goodbyes. Her birthday was February 4. We played the music she loved – Brown Eye Girl, Going to the Chapel, I wanna to hold your hand, and Winterwonderland. She stirred and smiled one last time. She knew she was surrounded by the family and friends - Brian, Jason, Karin, Ryan , Debby Perman, Carole and Ray Metro and me.
So this is end of the chapter of her life on earth. Carol is starting a new book of life in Heaven. I miss her very much and I know I will join her in heaven. I want to thank all her friends and family for attending this memorial service. Remember of hope, faith, and love, that love is the greatest. Carol was the greatest. Amen.
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Joseph Marino posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 15, 2017
Ode to Carol the love of my Life
Well she just was18 and I 17 when I saw her standing there.
I could see I how I could fall in Love with Her
We danced through the night and held each other tight.
Before too long I fell in love with her.
Now I will never dance with another since I saw her standing there.
When I see you I want to hold your hand.
Oh please say to me let me be your man.
When I touch you I feel happy inside.
It such a feeling I can't hide my love.
It won't be long until I belong to you.
Every night the tears come down my eyes.
You will be coming home.
Every day we will be happy I know.
All I got to do is whisper in your ear
and you will be kissing me.
When ever you want me you just got to call me.
Remember I will always be true.
I'll send all my loving to you.
When there was you
There was music and wonderful roses.
There was love all around.
Being alone tonight
I love you like no other can.
Even though I cry
Let me go on loving you.
Your husband Joe
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Beth Galotti posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 15, 2017
My deepest sympathy goes out to Mrs. Marino's family at this very sad time. I had her as a teacher at Mohegan School and will never forget the kindness she showed to all of us, especially me being a new student at the time. She always had a smile on her face and a kind word for everyone, she will be sorely missed not only as a person but as a fantastic educator.
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Susan Heilweil posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 14, 2017
Dear family of Mrs. Marino, all r of our children were blessed to have as their teacher at Mohegan School. She was a beautiful soul dedicated to her craft and all the children she taught. Our hearts go out to all of you. Bless her soul. With deep fondness and gratitude for her loving devotion, Susan and Larry Heilweil, Neil, Madelyn, Jaclyn, and Jason.
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Elaine Visci posted a condolence
Sunday, February 12, 2017
Carol will always have a special place in my heart. She will be remembered as a kind and warm person who saw the good in everyone. I will never forget what a wonderful teacher she was to my children, especially my son James. She took him under her wings and how he flew! I'm going to miss Carol and the smile that she had on her face every time that I saw her.
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Sunday, February 12, 2017
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Carol always smiling as I remember her.
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Marilyn & Billy Gainer posted a condolence
Saturday, February 11, 2017
To Joe, Brian & Jason & family members,
We want you to know we are thinking of you after the loss of Carol. She was a blessing to our family and we have so many wonderful memories of her over the years at our family gatherings. She was always so upbeat, caring and thoughtful. She will surely be missed by all our family. Please accept our sincere sympathy. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
Love,
Billy & Marilyn
167 Wakelee Avenue